Inescapable.
We should not discount the experiences we have or the people who come into our lives. We should try to see experiences and people with wide open eyes. Everything and each person has it or his or her place; we should honor this by trying our hardest to find that place.
It’s nearing the end of another semester and everyone is tired and stressed. I imagine it not being as draining if we were robots that did nothing but learn. Robots lack emotion. They are metallic and hollow. They process what you tell them and when. They don’t think; they don’t have to; they just do do do.
Humans think. Worse, we feel. It’s hard to stop those spinning emotions, those fleeting emotions, and those emotions that won’t let you go. It’s harder yet to think through them, analyze them, understand them. It’s such a deadening process. Even if you can see the end, you are not there yet. Even if you were, the end would change. The end will change; another process will begin.
Understand, though, if nothing else, you will be fuller because of those processes. In those processes you experience things and you meet people you wouldn’t have otherwise. And, yes, people come and go. But when they come, cherish them. Learn from them and let them learn from you. And when they go, shed a tear if you have to, but never forget why they were so important to you: why he was so important; why she was.
Let the importance become part of you. Let it shape you. For this is happening anyway; you are always being created. And if you accept what is good and learn from what is not, you will become, you will inescapably become.
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A lot of this is very strong, ginsprich, but, just in case nobody else mentions it to you, that little twist you put on “becoming” at the very end is very satisfying.
davidbdale– Yeah, the ending threw me off for roughly four to five minutes (considering how fast this was written, that’s a lot of pondering over words). I appreciate your mentioning that it works. Thanks, in general, too.
So very, very true and nicely and concisely expressed. It’s amazing how hard it is when we’re in the midst of some emotional experience to see anything else, especially that it won’t last forever. I find that even when I can see the rational side or look at the situation objectively for an instant, it still doesn’t change how I feel, it can’t I guess because I have to feel it for a reason.
bluedragonfly– Thanks. And, yes, I think you’re right: some things we just have to feel and go through. I also agree about seeing things objectively– It’s refreshing when you can get to that place, but, yeah, it doesn’t seem to stay around long. I’ve written about myself in the third person before (the idea of detachment). That seems to help. If you haven’t tried it, I do recommend.
what if you can’t tell the difference between what is good and what’s not?
Then maybe it’s okay to try to understand the difference.
This is very profound and in places could relate to it at places.Perhaps,”becoming” is an interminable idea and we ought to keep doing it.